Tips for separated parents planning holidays abroad

The summer holidays are an exciting time for children and adults alike. The chance to spend uninterrupted time together and create lasting memories is something to be treasured. Working out how to spend this time can be challenging if you and your partner are separated.

Here are some tips to help you plan a holiday whilst keeping your parenting arrangement as amicable as possible.

Planning and communication before you book

Planning a holiday usually starts months before the event, so there is plenty of time to have conversations with your ex-partner about it.

You will need to agree on the basic elements of a holiday such as destination and budget if you are expecting a financial contribution. Dates are also important as you will need to compromise if the holiday changes any custody agreements.

Legal considerations

Consent from anyone with parental responsibility is essential when it comes to taking children on holiday. This will be explicitly covered by a custody agreement or official arrangement.

If it isn’t mentioned, you may need to apply for a Specific Issue Order to solve the issue. In this situation be sure to seek legal advice from a family solicitor to give your case the best chance of succeeding.

Documentation and packing

Holidays abroad require passports for all parties travelling. To apply for a passport for your children, both parents (if they have parental responsibility) need to sign the forms. It is worth noting that a letter of consent from the other parent may also be required to allow you both to travel. This is usually necessary when your surname differs from your child’s.

Packing is a task that some parents dread. Your child may throw a curveball and state that they desperately need something from their other home. This is an example of when open communication can be really beneficial. Try and coordinate with your co-parent to make sure nothing is forgotten.

Communication during the trip

Before you jet off to sunnier weather, have an honest conversation with the other parent about levels of communication. You may be expecting uninterrupted time with your offspring, but the other may appreciate a FaceTime every couple of days. Reaching a compromise will ensure all feelings are taken into account and everyone can enjoy themselves.

You should also have a plan for when you arrive back in the UK. You may find it easier to have the kids’ parent meet you at the airport so they can spend some time together. Whatever you decide, it needs to be something both parties are happy with.

Planning a holiday abroad can be stressful, but once you see your children’s faces light up as they run on the beach or splash in the pool, it will all be worth it.